Based on a book by Ken Sande
4 Principle of peace making
1. Glorify God - how can I honor the Lord? - by trusting obeying imitating Christ. Acknowledge God in whatever steps we take.
2. Get the log out of your own eye. How can I show Jesus work in me by taking responsibility for my contribution to this conflict?
Take away the blind spot. Who is holding the knife? Is the Word of God A friend or foe?
3. Gently Restore the Other. How can I lovingly serve others by helping them take responsibility for their contribution to the conflict? Friend Felix had trouble w the kids. Together his friends helped him see what he was doing wrong.
4. Go and be reconciled. Felix and I met someone in church who we did not like. After a few hours I decided to nail him in a brotherly manner. Felix said STOP! Now we thank God for the friendships have.
Missionary Don and wife felt called to go to vicious tribe of head hunters and cannibals. These people had a code of honor that honored the most treacherous among them. Fatten up friendship for the kill.
Don the missionary brought the leaders together and taught them the last week of the life of Christ. Judas became the hero.
He tries to make peace but can't until the tribes get together for a peace meeting where small children were exchanged to become the "peace child". Now Don could explain that Jesus was the eternal peacechild and Judas is the betrayer of the peacechild, and a real villain. Finally the gospel resonated with the stone age people.